511. From Selfishness to Generosity

Mike Parsons

If you are believing for something, you cannot be negative about it or double-minded. You need to live in the reality that you have already received it. Jesus said to pray believing that you have received, and you will receive.

Of course, this can easily drift into selfishness. Bigger house, bigger car, better job, more of this and more of that. The real question is why we want something. Is it simply for ourselves, or is it so that it can be a blessing? God wants to bless us so that we can bless others. There is always a receiving so that we can give.

Some approaches to manifesting reality are rooted in self-centredness. The principles may appear to work, but they do not bring joy or fulfilment. People can have more possessions and still be no happier. Materialism cannot meet a spiritual need. At best, it offers a temporary fix. God is not opposed to blessing us, but the purpose of blessing is always relational and outward-facing.

Everything operates at a frequency. Matter, thoughts, intentions, desires, all of it carries energy. When you intentionally release a desire aligned with God’s heart and purpose, that intention carries a frequency. It can connect with another person who is aligned in spirit.

This is something I experienced personally. When God spoke to me about having another relationship, it was not even on my radar. I was content living on my own and thought I did not need the complexity of relationship. When God challenged me, I initially questioned it. But then I realised my thinking had been centred on my own contentment rather than on being a blessing to someone else.

If I am loved unconditionally by God and I do not share that love, then I am actually withholding something that was never meant to be kept to myself. My thinking shifted. The question then became how this could even happen, since I had not dated since I was sixteen, which was many decades earlier.

When I asked God how this would work, He reminded me that I already knew how to connect. That meant I had to act. I chose to release my intention, carrying the frequency of a desire to love someone, to bless someone and to make them happy. That intention connected with someone whose spirit was open to receiving love.

I am not saying there is only one possible person, but I did find the right person for me. When we eventually met, I knew in my spirit that this was the person I had connected with through intention and desire. I did not explain that on the first meeting, of course. That would not have gone down well. But within minutes, we were talking about deep things. There was an ease and depth that was unusual.

I engaged her at a spiritual level, even though she did not initially know that was what was happening. She felt it. She sensed a level of connection she had not experienced before. What I was doing was simply mirroring what God had done with me.

God had drawn me into first love, into my origin and identity in Him. That restoration opened the door for me to love another in the same way. I never believed God could restore my ability to experience first love. I thought that part of me had been lost through pain and disappointment earlier in life. I had closed down emotionally to protect myself.

God brought healing. Then He restored my capacity for first love. I fell in love, but I fell in love after choosing to love. That was the difference. I did not start with physical attraction or emotional intensity. I engaged first in the spirit.

When we met again, we sat by a lake and talked for hours. Time disappeared. I could see into her heart, the hurt, the caution, the pain from past experiences. In that moment, I knew I had a choice. I could choose to love her unconditionally and create a safe environment for her to heal and open again.

That is what God does with us. He chooses to love us. I chose to love her. I gave her time and space, creating safety rather than pressure. As I engaged her spirit with mine, she gradually opened. I fell in love, and with that came the emotions of first love, but without the immaturity, fear or hormonal confusion of adolescence. It was purer.

God restored my ability to love fully. I opened the garden of my heart and shared who I really was. She felt it, even before she understood it. At one point she said, “You are getting under my skin in a good way. What are you doing?” I explained that I was engaging her spirit, something she had never experienced before.

What had died in a previous relationship was awakened again. I discovered who I truly was. Romantic, expressive, affirming, generous, desiring to bless and serve. I realised those qualities had always been part of me, but they had been buried.

This restoration began with a simple question: how do I connect with the right person? The answer was intention. I released desire, purpose and frequency, and I trusted that connection would happen.

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