521. God Is Love: Rethinking Judgment, Identity and the Reach of Grace

Mike Parsons

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God’s Desire Is Always Good

God is good, and God wants to bring good into people’s lives, even out of the things they do which are wrong. He does not condone what they do, because what they do will often be negative towards themselves and towards others, and that is not something God desires. But God still wants to bring good.

It is the love of Christ that compels us. It is not fear of God’s judgment or anger. It is God’s love, and that is what we are meant to carry.

I know some people say that is all wishy-washy, and that you need to see God as this or that. But honestly, I do not think those people really know who God is if they believe He is angry, looking to punish people, or wanting to take people out. That is not who He is.


Identity, Not Condemnation

God wants people to find their identity as sons in relationship with Him, and to discover their place in bringing the kingdom of God on earth as it is in heaven. That is His desire for everybody. That is true for every single person on earth right now. No matter what they have done, Jesus has already died to forgive them. God does not hold it against them at all, because they are already reconciled to Him. They just do not know that, so they are operating out of a lost identity. They are doing things out of a lack of knowledge and experience of who they are.

We have all been there.

God did not judge me in a negative way. He graciously, with mercy and love, led me into discovering the truth. He did not come down and condemn me because I was believing lies, even though He knew I was believing lies about Him and many other things. He led me into an experience of truth which renewed my mind. I came to realise, I do not believe that anymore. There was no condemnation involved.

So we should not condemn people for where they are in their journey. They may still be operating out of a wrong identity, a wrong way of thinking, or a religious mindset, but so were we. Let us have grace and mercy for people, and help them find where the truth is. Not by condemning them, but by encouraging them to pursue God so they can find the truth in Him.


God Is Love, Fully and Consistently

God is love. I do not just think that, I know it. Therefore, God operates in love all the time. He is never anything other than love. People say, “Well, He is just and He is holy.” Of course He is. But that means justice and holiness are love expressed and outworked. They are not different.

We often create two versions of God when we compare what people think they see in the Old Testament with what Jesus revealed in the New. People end up operating in a mixture of those two ideas. But God is not two-faced. He has always been love. He has never been anything different. He was not operating differently in the Old Testament than in the New. People simply viewed Him differently.

They did not know Him. So they described Him out of their lack of knowledge, through their own religious mindsets, creating an image of God shaped by distance rather than relationship. That does not define Him. We have never defined God through our theology, beliefs or doctrines. God is not definable by us. He is God.

Therefore just because someone says God is like this, or writes something down and it is recorded in the Bible, does not mean it is true. If it contradicts the reality that God is love, then we know it is not true, because Jesus came to reveal who God really is. You do not see Jesus condemning people. He challenged people, but He did not condemn them. He did not judge them. He did not kill them. Even when people were killing Him on the cross, His response was, “Father, forgive them.”

That is God. He forgives. He is a loving God.


Awakening to Love

God has been misrepresented by all sorts of religions, including Christianity, as someone He is not. That is why people need to awaken to love. Many are doing that by leaving the conditional picture of God they encountered in church and finding Him outside of it. There are also people who have never been in church who are discovering that God is love, not through religion, but they are still coming through Jesus, even if they do not name Him.

He is the door to the Father. You cannot find the Father any other way, but that door is open. It has always been open. Jesus is the door; He has opened the way, and He has kept it open. He is not as precious about how people come through that door as we often are. When people find the Father, they will have come through Jesus the Son. They may not describe it that way, but that is the reality.

So we need to help people come through that door, to find Him, to experience the love of God, and to discover their identity in Him. Not to try to conform them to a religious system. In reality, more people are finding God and His love outside of Christianity than within it.


Already Reconciled, Already Included

I am not against people coming to Jesus and accepting what He did on the cross. That is how I would present the gospel, helping people discover who God is in love and experience that love; that Jesus loves them and has made a way for them. But I would not be prescriptive and say there is no other way people can come and experience the love of God. It will be through Jesus, but it may not be through the religious Christian way that we have described how Jesus saved people.

People are already saved, already included. Already reconciled, already accepted. They are already forgiven. They do not know it, and sometimes the way we present the good news does not help them know it. So let us help people find God, and let God bring them into the relationship and reveal Himself to them. That is not our responsibility. That is His.

Let us remove the hindrances and obstacles that may have been placed in people’s way, especially the harsh, judgmental message that says they will be condemned to hell if they do not accept Jesus. That is not true. Love is powerful: love never fails, love never gives up.

And death is not the end of choice.


Love Beyond Death: A Personal Testimony

Even if someone chooses to reject God in this life, God does not reject them. There is still opportunity beyond this life to embrace Him.

I have a testimony of that recently, though I have never done this before.

Last week, I went to a celebration of someone’s life. It was a man I had met through a school reunion. He was the husband of one of Debbie’s school friends, and we had met several times over the past months. At those gatherings, the husbands are often spare parts, left figuring out what to talk about. But over time I got to know them. One of the men was a Christian, and we had some great conversations about grace, love and the mystic side of things. This other man was not interested at all. He was a nice man, funny, but not open to any of it.

We met in April, and in June we heard that he had been diagnosed with a disease, and then he died in July, suddenly, very quickly. It was sad for his wife, for his family, and for his children. We were invited to go to the celebration of his life, which was totally non-religious, because he was totally against organised religion, as I found out when people were telling stories about him.

I sat there listening to the stories and people’s recollections, and I started to feel sad. I felt sad for the people who did not seem to have any hope. In their view, he was dead and gone. Life after death did not exist as far as he was concerned, and probably that is what his family felt too. There was no expectation of seeing him again.

While they were playing some music he liked, some Beatles music and other songs, I thought, “Okay God, is there anything I can do about this? Is there anything that you want me to do?”

Then I felt God say, “Well, you know what to do about it.”

So I thought, “Can I?” And then I decided, okay, I am going to be bold. While everything was quiet and the music was playing, I went to the fire of God’s love and I called him out. I did not know whether he was going to be there, because sometimes people accept Jesus on their deathbed. But he was there.

He came, and I felt the emotion. I felt that he was feeling condemned, not by God, but by self-condemnation and self-anguish, because he realised that his belief systems were not right. He was still alive, not dead. His consciousness was still living. For people who do not believe there is life after death, when they die and discover they are still alive, it is a shock.

So I preached the gospel to him. I shared that God’s love never fails. That even though he had rejected God while he lived, and did not accept that there was a God, God still loved him. God had never rejected him. God still wanted a relationship with him.

I shared that good news, and I offered him that opportunity, to which he responded and accepted. He followed me, and I introduced him to the Father. The Father brought his spirit and soul back together, unified him, clothed him with glory, and placed a ring on his finger of sonship. It was wonderful to see.

I did not stand up and tell people what I had done. That would not have fitted the framework of the meeting. They would probably have thought I was very strange. But now he has a relationship with God.

And death is not the end. It is another opportunity, in a different way, to experience God’s love.


Death Is Not the End of Choice

I know people will say you cannot talk to dead people. But they are not dead. A person’s spirit and soul do not die. Their body may be dead, but they have moved into another realm. We still have an opportunity to share the good news with them, even if they have chosen to reject Jesus and God in this life.

Then I started to feel really happy. There was a sense of joy in what he was now experiencing. Of course, I would want his children and his friends to feel that same joy, and to be awakened to God’s love. But at least for him, he is now out of the consuming fire, out of that refining process, and he is now receiving and accepting God’s love.

Now he knows who he is. And now he is going to go on to fulfil his destiny in that realm. That is good news. These are tremendous opportunities of sharing God’s love. Death is not the end of choice, as I experienced in that testimony. I am not saying I will ever do that again:  I do not know. I felt moved by compassion, and God gave me permission.

It shows what is possible.


Responsibility and Opportunity

All of us have the opportunity to preach the good news and help people embrace God’s love, even after they die. There may be family members. There may be situations where we can do this.

In this situation, I was surprised that I even thought about it. But I was feeling so moved, aware that something was missing, something that could have been there, so I chose to do something about it.

He still had the choice. He could have rejected what I shared. But his belief system had already been challenged, because he did not believe there was anything after death. Now he found himself in a place where he thought he was condemned to remain there forever, because he did not know anything different. Even though he had not believed in God, and had not believed in hell, he now assumed that must be where he was. He was full of self-anguish, believing that his decisions in life had placed him there.

But God still loves him. And the love of God can reach people even in that place. It is our responsibility to empty that place of people, to make sure no one is left there, and that they all find the love of God.


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508. God’s Desire For You | Discovering True Intimacy

Mike Parsons

This is the relationship God wants us to have: the deepest, most intimate relationship we could ever have with anyone.

He wants to reveal Himself in such a way that this relationship becomes possible, because we are no longer caught up in the issues that have separated us from Him or made us fearful of intimacy.

Often we are afraid of getting close because we think, well, He will really know me. But He already knows us, and He loves us anyway. That love is unconditional. Because of that, we do not need to be afraid to be real or honest with Him. We can share how we feel. We can learn how He feels towards us and be inspired by that. This is real relationship. It is not abstract or distant. It is real, and because it is real, it includes everything.

Sometimes we struggle. Sometimes it is difficult. Sometimes things happen that we do not understand and we ask, how could God allow that to happen? We have questions. We have doubts. At times, we even experience unbelief. God understands all of that. He is not threatened by it. He wants to draw us closer and closer, deeper and deeper, bringing us to a place where He truly reveals Himself.

As He does that, we begin to see ourselves reflected back in the wonderful mirror of His face. We see ourselves as He made us. He reveals who we really are. He wants us to live in that intimacy, but intimacy always brings change. It brings transformation. Sometimes the crucible gets hot, releasing the things in us that hinder relationship and closeness. But there is no guilt, no shame and no condemnation in that process. There is only love.

It was love that inspired me to trust God and to open my heart and my life fully to Him. It was love that brought me to the judgment seat, where the fire of His presence burned away the wood, hay and stubble of my scroll. It was love that brought me to a place of complete surrender. If I had feared Him, I could never have done that. He wants us to come to a place where the intimacy of His presence reveals the true nature of His heart, and we discover that this is home.

Not knowing who we are keeps us from Him. Sin is not primarily a verb, something we do, but a noun, something we are affected by. We lost our identity, and because we do not know who we are, we feel unworthy, undeserving or unqualified for relationship with God. Sometimes we even think we do not need it. All of these mindsets keep us from the relationship God always intended and has always prepared for us.

God’s desire has always been for us to return to restored innocence, to face-to-face relationship. The things that keep us from that are lies. Paul said that we are alienated in our own minds. God has never been separated from us. We think these things keep us from Him, but in reality, God embraces us as we are. In that intimacy, He reveals who we truly are.

As we come into agreement with that truth, we begin to resonate with it. The frequency of truth changes us. We are entrained into alignment with who we always were, but lost sight of and forgot. It is not behaviour that keeps us from God. It is mindset. It is the way we see ourselves.

That is why God wants to renew our minds, to the true nature of who He is and who we are. He wants us to realise that the only thing that keeps us from Him is our own perception. Once we begin to see rightly, we discover that nothing can separate us from God, not even ourselves, because His love never fails and never gives up.

As the psalmist David said, where can I go from Your presence? If I go into the grave, You are there. If I go into the highest heavens, You are there. In Him we live and move and have our being. We cannot be separated from Him except in our own minds. God has never separated Himself from us.

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491. When I Let Go Of Penal Substitutionary Atonement

Mike Parsons

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Penal substitutionary atonement (PSA) was the first to go. When I began to express my doubts about it to others, one woman involved in mystic and mentoring groups emailed me, saying I was trying to take away ‘the cornerstone of her faith’. She was serious and angry at me because she wanted to hold onto PSA as the cornerstone of her belief.

I told her that if that’s where she wanted to remain, that was her choice, but I was moving on. Naturally, that upset some people, but many others resonated with the idea that it didn’t make sense for God as Father to kill or punish His Son. And when you investigate further, you find that PSA is actually a doctrine that only emerged in the tenth century…

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489. Nine Pillars That Shaped (And Shook) My Beliefs

Mike Parsons

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I’m not going to go far wrong if I interpret everything through love. I might get some minor things a bit mixed up or twisted, but the bottom line is that love won’t lead me too far astray if I lean that way. On the other hand, if I lean towards judgment, condemnation or other negative interpretations, I’m stepping beyond the scope of love.

I don’t go there any more.

It took a long time for my mind to be deprogrammed from my religious upbringing and the programming of evangelicalism, along with the other pillars of my thinking. He asked me if I wanted him to remove these pillars from my mind. About six of them were religious, as I was brought up very religiously, and three were cultural or scientific, influenced by an education that included cultural relativism and similar ideas.

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488. Do You Only See What You Expect To See?

Mike Parsons

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All those people who say they have been in hell for ten minutes, or whatever, are framing their experience through their theological understanding of hell rather than the truth. They see what they expect to see. That is the problem. We can be confirmation-biased and create our own scenario around what God is really trying to show us.

This is why we need to let God renew our minds and trust him in that process, rather than resisting him. At the same time, we should not be naive enough to think that everything we are thinking is already correct, because we are all still in the process. Even so, I would rather err on the side of love in everything I think than lean towards anything else. If I interpret everything through love, I will not go far wrong.

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487. My First Hand Experiences Of Hell

Mike Parsons

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So between 2005 and 2010, I had a number of experiences which I described at the time as hell-like, simply because I had no other reference point in my life. I thought I had encountered hell, and so my framework for understanding was the usual concept of hell. That’s what I believed the experience meant, because I couldn’t see it any other way; I had no other frame of reference.

Once I actually encountered God and encountered love, I was able to revisit those experiences and see what he had really been showing me through them. I came to realise that I had completely misunderstood and misinterpreted what had happened, just as many others do when they claim to have been in hell for a few minutes. They are framing their experience through their theological understanding of hell.

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485. Having Our Minds Renewed

Mike Parsons

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We’re all in a process of having our minds renewed so that we won’t be moulded and shaped by the upbringing, conditioning and programming we’ve received. Our minds are renewed so we’re not pressed into that mould, but instead transformed into who He said we were from the beginning.

That process is relational. By experiencing Him, our minds are changed. We can’t make it happen by trying to use the Bible as a tool, since misunderstanding it was what created the problem in the first place. Our minds are changed when we let Him do it, as we submit ourselves to the relationship He gives us—always weighing everything with love as our measuring stick.

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484. Measure Everything Against Love

Mike Parsons

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We should weigh the things that we feel and what we think God has said. We should weigh them. We shouldn’t just accept them carte blanche. We should weigh it.

What do we weigh it with? How do we measure it? I measure it with love. Is this loving? Is this going to help people experience God and experience His love? So I’m measuring it against that.

So I know that if I thought God told me to do something which was contradictory to love, I know it couldn’t be Him. And people say, but you’re now saying that God can’t do something! Yes, I am. He can’t contradict Himself as being love, and he wouldn’t ask us to contradict himself and contradict what love is either.

So whenever something we think God said is not aligned to true love – true unconditional love – then we’ve got to question it.

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481. Beyond The Pages | Finding Truth Outside the Bible

Mike Parsons

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We are following a book which has been translated by people with an agenda and a preconceived confirmational bias, rather than out of relationship with Jesus. Yet Jesus said he would speak to us and that we could follow him. We have the Holy Spirit, the Spirit of Truth, within us. We do not need another teacher.

So why are we telling people they must follow a book, when they can be guided by the Holy Spirit and through Jesus, who is the Truth? Jesus is the Word of God. The Bible is not the Word of God. The problem is that we have been taught otherwise. I hear people say, “We are going to read the Word.” But they are reading a book, half of which was never intended for them, the other half written for people in the first century preparing for the end. We are not those people.

That does not mean God has not used the Bible. He has used it in my life, but it has also caused huge confusion. I was deceived into believing things simply because I was taught that was what the Bible said. Now, I go with what Jesus says. I will not live by an interpretation of a book; I will follow a person in relationship. He is the Way, the Truth and the Life. The Bible is not. Even if someone had never read a verse, never seen a Bible, they could still encounter Jesus and through him engage the Father.

This is why I would never encourage a new believer to start with the Bible. It will only confuse them, as they are faced with conflicting interpretations and even two seemingly different versions of God. But it was always just people’s limited view of God, not who he truly is. Relationship is what matters. I can walk in relationship even with those I disagree with, because I do not need to prove them wrong. My faith is grounded in personal experience and testimony, not in the teaching of a book.

I use the Bible only as a frame of reference, because that is how people have been taught. Yet I can count fewer than five times when the Father or Jesus has actually quoted a Bible verse to me. When they did, it was revelatory. For example, “Come to me, all who are weary and heavy laden…” was spoken to me when I was striving to be good enough and keep a behavioural standard. It showed me why I was weary and how I could come into his rest. The principle was what mattered, not the verse.

Jesus is quite capable of saying directly, “Follow me and enter rest.” He does not need to quote Matthew 11:28. People can and do go astray, but many have also gone astray while following the Bible. History shows how it has been used to persecute, to endorse slavery, the Inquisition and Christendom itself. The Bible is not safe. Only Jesus and the Holy Spirit, as the Way, the Truth and the Life, keep us on a safe path. If you use love as the plumb line, you will not go far wrong.

This is what God showed me when he challenged my views of the Bible. He brought me back to the relationship I had with him, and how he speaks directly. He weaned me off my need for Bible confirmation. I know many still need that, but their thinking must eventually shift. They were told “the Bible says this,” but that has to be undone if they are to truly follow God.

Some quote verses about people falling away from sound teaching in the last days. But those last days were AD 66 to 70, when many fell away under persecution. That does not apply to us in the same way today. And this is the issue.

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480. The Heart of Evangelism | Meeting People Where They Are

Mike Parsons

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The Importance of Showing Real Interest

God loves people and takes a genuine interest in their lives. If we fail to show any interest ourselves, how will they ever believe that God is truly interested in them? Demonstrating care means asking about their situation and engaging with their story. It is not about forcing a single message upon someone, insisting that they must receive it whether they want to or not.

Instead, it is about recognising that God personally meets each person in their own circumstances. He cares, He desires to help, and He longs for them to discover who they truly are. In doing so, they can understand that God already loves them. This is a very different approach, one that treats each individual as unique rather than as a commodity, project or statistic.

Meeting People Where They Are

In the past, many forms of evangelism tended to focus on strategies and techniques. Courses often emphasised how to deliver a message and how to ensure that people listened. Yet this approach often missed the point. Evangelism should not be about ticking boxes or securing conversions. It ought to begin with real interest in people themselves—the realities of their lives and the struggles they face.

Rather than asking, “How can I insert this message into a conversation?”, we should be asking, “How can I develop a genuine relationship with this person, one that may open the door for them to encounter God for themselves?”

A Personal Approach

People need to meet God in us. They need to see and sense something of Jesus expressed through our lives. This may not always be conscious on their part, and sometimes it may not even be conscious on ours, yet God shines through us all the same. In this way, we carry His presence into every encounter.

As Scripture explains, Jesus was the clear image of the Father, revealing to those around Him what God was really like. Many have no true idea of God’s character until they encounter Christ.

Treating Individuals as Unique

In the same way, we are called to be ambassadors of reconciliation. Our role is to represent God’s heart faithfully and to help others to see that He has already done everything needed to restore their relationship with Him.


Summary: When our lives reflect His presence, others can begin to sense His love and discover for themselves the truth of who they are in Him. By treating people as individuals rather than commodities, we embody the message that God cares deeply for them. Evangelism then becomes not about delivering a formulaic message, but about relationship, love and presence.


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